The transition to living on one income can be rough… but think about all these things ahead of time, and you might be able to do it!
If you’ve ever worked as a mama (or papa!) you know how bad it tugs at your heartstrings to leave your baby every day – and the thought has probably crossed once or twice
“Could we make it on one income?”
While it won’t work for everyone, for a lot of people, it’s certainly possible by budgeting and sacrificing some things!
I remember during my pregnancy, I kept telling all my co-workers how I’d be “so bored just staying home” (what did I think I was going to do all day, just sit on the couch??) and how there was no way I’d be ok with not bringing in money (OH geez I would have gave myself the dirty eye knowing what I know now!)
Well, my son came and from the moment he was born I knew that I wanted to stay home. How could I leave him with some person I don’t know? What if he liked the daycare lady more than me? What if I missed out on some important milestone?
Unfortunately, I had already made the commitment and had told my work that I would come back after my maternity leave… and so I did.
My son cried every single day, for most of the day, the entire time he was in daycare. He was barely eating, and I had to try to slip out of work to drive over and nurse him.
Now working mamas, hear me out! YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME! Not every baby will act this way, and not every mama will be ok with being in the house all the time like SAHM! I have different outlets other than work to get out, but I know some amazing moms that work as well… and some moms who have no choice due to financial situations and must work. I just wanted to preface this article by saying I know not every mama can, or wants to stay home and live off of one income.
After much talk with my husband, we decided to live our cushy-ish life and drop to one income.
But let’s be honest, after daycare costs, the crazy rearranging of schedules should he become sick, and everything else, I was only losing a minimal amount of money!
We talked about quite a few things and made some cuts into our budget.
If you’re thinking of making the plunge to living off of one income, here are some tips and things to do before hand!
Discover what your budget actually is by looking through the past couple of months of bills
You would be surprised at how different your financial situation is once you actually comb through all your credit and debit cards. For us, we saw all of our frivolous money spent and figured if we could get that under control, we’d have way more extra! It’s important to look over the span of around 3 months to get averages of what you spend so that you can work on setting new goals for each section.
For us, we had five columns. And to live on one income, you have to be pretty aware of where each dollar is being spent! So it’s nice to write it all out so you can see!
Our expenses could be divided into the following
- Monthly Bills
Loans – The only way to lower the loans portion was to refinance things, which wasn’t an option for us at the time.
Bills – The bills all looked in order, so there was nothing to change there. Just be sure to look for any discrepancies, such as auto pays being taken out twice (on different cards) or things like that.
Food – Food was a big one for us. We try to eat organic as often as possible, but that was killing us every month money wise. We decided to look at the “dirty dozen” list and only buy organic versions of the thigns that were supposedly really bad. We also kept buying organic items that were less than two dollar price difference compared to their non organic counterpart. Another food cost we cut was “fancy nights”. We loved buying cheese, bread, meat and wine once a week, and that was around 60 dollars! Instead, we could just do a monthly thing.
Don’t forget to look at how often you buy yourself “treats”. I almost always bought myself some sushi when I went to the grocery store, and that aws 10 bucks a pop. I went to the store ATLEAST 6 times a month, so 60 dollars is a lot!
Entertainment – This includes video games, monthly things like Netflix, magazines, books, going out to the bars or whatever. We averaged out how much we spent over 3 months on these things, and agreed to make a goal to spend 100 less. We felt it was important to not completely deprive ourselves from the get go, since raising tiny people is hard and we all need that mental break away. Having a goal, and keeping track of where you’re at, can make you feel like you can still have fun, but also be doing something useful for your budget!
Miscellaneous – Another hard one. It seemed like every month, something came up that we had to have. Something for our hobbies, kid clothes, something would break… we can’t control all of those expenses. but one thing I found useful was “giving it a week” before purchasing something. That means if I saw something I felt I needed, I would wait and see if I still remembered it. Sometimes I would see something I thought I needed for one of my various hobbies, only to find out 4 days later there was a much cheaper alternative, or that it just wasn’t necessary. We tried to narrow down these expenses to MUSTS such as broken household items we needed to function (cars, dish washer, laundry machine etc) and stuff the kids needed.
Look at all monthly subscriptions, and evaluate how important it is to you, and how much use you actually get out of it
This is something that can save a bit of money if you’re like me, and sign up for those 30 day free things, then forget to cancel!
We found two subscriptions we didn’t really need (Hulu and some add on Music Prime service) and got rid of those. We already had Netflix, and we mostly use Pandora so we didn’t need a second paid music service.
Then we looked at how much use some of the things we like got… my husband has an Audible subscription, but he drives a ton and that’s how he manages to stay awake so we kept that.
I had a subscription to some knitting club where I got new patterns each month, but since I didn’t have time to knit, and there’s a ton of free designs online… dumped it.
I also had a cool photo editing thing I used ONCE when I thought I was going to be super into drawing stuff and coloring it on a computer… so I got rid of that.
There were one or two magazines we never read anymore, so got rid of those too.
Just try to comb through the past 3 months of bills and make sure you only have what you really really want!
Some tips to cut down on monthly subscription costs
- Do you already have a similar service? Such as Netflix vs Hulu, Pandora vs. Amazon Prime Music Unlimited etc
- How often do you use this? Is the reward (your use) worth the cost?
- Is there a lesser version of the subscription? For example, if you only use it x amount of times, is there a way to pay less for less use?
Utilize FB marketplace, thrift stores etc to cut costs
This is a biggie! Not gonna lie, before I quit we were able to, for the most part, buy what we wanted when we wanted.
Nothing extravagant, but if we needed a new pair of nice snow pants or something, we just bought it at the sports store.
Again, I wasn’t bringing home THAT much… but it was enough to feel like we could spend a little more on things.
Now we make sure to check Facebook marketplace, thrift stores, and used sports stores before we buy things like gear and clothes.
It’s amazing how much stuff you’ll find barely used!
And to be honest, it feels freaking awesome to buy something and know that it cost more than triple new… and the one in your hand LOOKS NEW!
Even if it doesn’t look new, let’s be honest. Kids wear things for like 6 months to a year… and they likely will tear it up in the process!
Have a threshold of cost before asking your partner if you should purchase it
A very important conversation to have before going to one income.
I know, for a while, I wrongly felt that since I didn’t bring home in money, I shouldn’t really be spending anything ever on myself.
But HELLO – daycare, housekeepers, and cooks all cost money! And I do those things!
I’m not saying to spend a ton, but talk with your partner to see how much you guys can spend without having to discuss it with each other.
It might be 5 dollars once a week for a nice coffee and muffin. It might be 10 dollars for some book you’ve been wanting.
I never really asked my husband how much he was spending when he would go out and things, but just knew that he worked so he deserved to relax too.
Again… HELLO I WORK (kids are very hard work!)!
We finally had the conversation because I had been really wanting a 9 dollar item, but hated spending money on myself. It actually made me resentful, and hubby sensed it.
And you know what?
He didn’t mind at all and was wondering why in the world I hadn’t got it yet!
I was making this big deal in my head over if I should spend money or not, and not wanting to bring it up because I felt bad.
So have the conversation… find out at what amount you should agree to ask each other about.
For us, anything under 10 dollars (not all the time, obviously) was OK.
Work on Heat/ AC bills
Confession: I am REALLY bad about cranking up the heat on cold winter mornings to like… 74 and sitting on the heater until I warm up!
Obviously, that’s not a good way to conserve money on your heating bill!
Look at your heat and AC bill, and find out where you can cut.
I know it’s not an option for many, but we have wood stove in our home. It’s ALOT OF WORK. However, our heating bill is virtually nothing!
Come summer, its tempting to put the AC on full blast. And it’s sometimes needed depending on where you live!
But if possible, use some of the following methods to cut down on these sorts of bills
- In summer, open the windows in the morning to let in the cool air (even if it becomes pretty cold in the house!) and shut them once the heat of the day sets in. This might allow you to not use your AC most days!
- Use foam boards in windows during winter to retain heat and keep cold out.
- Keep the heat set at an over all lower temperature and just wear jackets (I got used to being able to wear tanks in the house when it was -10 outside! Not needed!)
Buy in bulk
Yes, the Sams Club or Costco card is very worth it.
I’d say 90% of stuff is MUCH cheaper than buying smaller amounts of it at other stores!
The bill might make you faint once you get everything you need, but keep in mind that’s like a month or two worth of supplies!
Here are some things I love to buy at Sams Club
- Olive oil
- cleaning supplies
- rice and noodles
- all condiments
To be honest, there’s alot more. That’s just the normal stuff I can think of off the top of my head!
And they DO have a surprisingly large amount of organic things! All food items mentioned above (besides olive oil) I was able to buy organic at a cheaper price than the non organic cost at the store!
Agree on a set amount of “entertainment” money (this can really help cut costs to be able to live on one income!)
For us, entertainment meant going out. We live by some pretty awesome breweries and activities, so this was a hard one!
We lowered this by thinking of reward vs cost.
Brewery visit with tons of friends we haven’t seen in awhile? WORTH IT! We’ll just limit ourselves in regards to how much we eat and drink
Going to a music show that’s going to be really crowded and loud for the kids? Not at the time… maybe next year
Me going out once a week to a coffee shop for a 1 dollar coffee and pastry? Yes, I need some time away if I can get it!
Anyways, that will all have monetary values that are different for everyone.
And really, I think each partner should have their own limit, as well as a combined family limit.
You will become jealous or resentful if you sit back for months watching your partner go out with their friends eating up the “entertainment money”, while you’re stuck at home!
I’m thankful hubby and I figured this out so that we are both happy!
Unless your partner makes a ton, you’ll likely not be able to just go out to eat or grab something when it gets too late or you’re too tired to cook!
Meal prep doesn’t have to be something fancy if you don’t want it to be.
Want to know our meal this week?
Chili. Chili for about 5 days, and we have sandwich stuff for lunches.
We tend to just cook large amounts of one thing, but I know plenty of people have entire websites dedicated to awesome meal plans with tons of variety.
Unfortunately, I am not the best at cooking and don’t like to make a giant mess.
And the way our family dynamic has ALWAYS been (even before I quit) was that my husband cooked. And he grew up eating giant crock pot meals!
For us it’s really easy and time saving to throw everything into a pot and just warm it up as time goes on.
We were spending a ton of money buying stuff from the hot bar, pizzas, or going out to eat for something fun to do.
A fun bonus of meal prep is you’ll likely eat healthier!
Discuss what is to be expected of the stay at home parent
Probably the most important one besides just making sure you can pay your basics on one income…
You may quit work, think you’re doing alright, and find out your partner expected way more of you since “you’re just home all day”
Or perhaps they want you to involve your child in more activities, or go outside more, or have dinner ready.
Whatever it is, talk about it before hand!
Most things you can likely be OK with if you are mentally prepared for said responsibilities to be your new norm!
I know my husband and I grew up in different family situations, and so his expectations and norm were different than mine.
We have found a half way point, and that’s key!
Weigh the difference in how much you made vs daycare costs
This is more of peace of mind.
For a lot of mamas I know, the difference is VERY small.
It was for me too, and my thought process was “So I’m gone all day, see my son for 2 hours, then do it all again tomorrow for just a couple hundred a month?”
I was making seventen dollars an hour, which is not much to some, but alot to others. We live in a resort town, so with that comes everything at a much higher price.
Not to mention the following food for thought
- A parent staying home means there won’t be two exhausted people attempting to cram hang out time with their kid, clean up and cook in the span of two or three hours
- Sick kid days and doctor visits will be alot easier to coordinate – no one will have to use their sick or vacation time
- More time spend with the kiddo, which is important for many reasons, but especially if you have a certain way you want to raise them (outdoors, focus on certain activities etc)
With all these things in mind, I figured the small money loss was worth being able to stay home.
And if possible… start a “side hustle”
I think that’s what it is called now a days!
Anyways, if you have the time, fully embrace a hobby you love and see if you can make money from it!
I’m honestly not a fan of things like the whole Doterra, young living, make up whatever programs that you have to bug your friends about.
However, I’ve seen many a mama do alright on places like Etsy, from blogging, or reselling things on Ebay!
And honestly, it can sometimes be a distraction to keep you busy and help you feel productive (as if keeping a house and raising a baby wasn’t productive enough already! Oh how our minds mess with us!)
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